How to make Date Night magic by Nechel Sheree Best

It can be hard to find time to get together when we are all so busy, but it’s important for all relationships. Especially for lovers, those we’re so fortunate to share with in deeply personal and secret ways. You know, your boo! Both of you deserve some time and space reserved just for making sure what has been desirable and precious stays that way. Obviously, as an event planner for a little more than 20 years, I am almost always involved in some manner of special romance. Be it weddings and anniversaries or planning intimate birthday celebrations, I know the couple that plays together stays together. So, I’m sharing my sage advice for making sure that dating your spouse or significant other becomes a tradition. First, things first, if necessary, you must set a standing appointment so that these special times just automatically happen. This makes sure it does happen because you will get used to scheduling other things around it. Here are 3 of my surefire recommendations for making date nights magical. 1. The Twist Mostly everyone loves pleasant surprises. When a loved one takes the time to think about the intricacies of our personalities and craft an experience that is totally catered to us. You fill in the details, but here’s the twist. Give some reasonable excuse for a change to date night. Like doing something they’d rather not. Then make it their most cherished memory ever! 2. The Escape You’re probably thinking “yeah, yeah take a trip.” Nope, escaping is not for the faint at heart. You must take a balanced approach to this endeavor and be willing to get out of your comfort zone; and if necessary, lovingly coax your darling into a daring adventure. Try shedding who you think you are for who you want to be. Yes, role playing! Meet up for coffee or drinks instead of your usual movie and pretend to be strangers that just met. Or in private become the Queen of Sheba that flirts with her male attendant. You get the idea and the scenarios are endless. Interestingly, role playing is a huge field of academic study that improves emotional intelligence. Google it, you'll see, then grab some ideas to get your creative juices flowing. 3. Whisk Away You knew it already, of course “getting away” makes a magical date night. And though it can be, this doesn’t have to be an expensive trip. Staycations within a 10 minute to 2-hour radius of your home are so refreshing. What I love about the “whisk away” is how the rekindling of a cozy connection gently lightens the weight of the world. Couples are so often challenged by the practicalities of life that its easy to lose sight of why it all matters. A few slow hours dedicated to the rhythm of whispers, cuddles, giggles, and hugs will prioritize LOVE and let the world know to adjust.